Why Funny Chicks Can’t Get Laid

30 Aug

I recently saw the movie Bridesmaids. It stars Kristin Wiig (of Saturday Night Live fame), alongside a great ensemble cast of mostly female comedic actresses. The movie is hysterical. I have been a HUGE Kristin Wiig fan for years; I even wrote a screenplay with her in mind to star. I think she’s one of the funniest women—no, funniest people—on the planet.

So how come guys, myself included, don’t find her “hot”? I mean, I’d bang her, but it’s because I’d bang anybody, not because she’s hysterically funny. If I were a girl and she was the funniest guy on the planet, I’d probably have a huge crush on her. Just look at pudgy, funny slobs like Seth Rogen, Jonah Hill and Jack Black, who I’m sure are up to their fat freaking ears in gorgeous female groupies. So what gives? Why no romantic love for the funny gals?

Humor is one of the least understood human behaviors. We know that laughing feels good, and people like to do it. We know it plays an important role in human communication: it can tell people you’re confident (by laughing in the face of danger), or serve as a defense mechanism (by laughing good-naturedly at yourself when you’re embarrassed to reduce damage to your reputation). It can be used to increase your social value (by putting someone else down with a joke), or even to stay healthy and increase life span (laughing 100 times a day is the abdominal exercise equivalent of doing 15 minutes on a rowing machine).

But like most behaviors, the primary purpose of humor seems to be mating. Men and women both consider sense of humor to be an important trait in a partner. But are they talking about the same thing?

Recent studies confirm a fact that many people—particularly female comedians—have known for years. When women say they want a guy with a “sense of humor,” they mean they want a guy who makes them laugh. When men say they want a girl with a sense of humor, they want a girl who laughs at their jokes.

Why the difference? Well, it’s all about the mechanics of mate selection. Many studies confirm that a good sense of humor is an accurate gauge of mental fitness. It’s not too hard to believe…wit and cleverness are as important in humor as they are in problem solving and intelligence. So generally, funny people are also smart. And women like smart, successful guys, so thus, women like funny guys. Conan O’Brien, for instance, is not only a successful comedian but also a Harvard grad, and women find him attractive despite the fact that he is a pasty, awkward gingercrotch. But that’s evolution for you. You can just picture one of Conan’s ancient ancestors—let’s call him “Caveman O’Brien”—displaying his clever sabertooth tiger impressions, thus providing evidence that his brain was also clever enough to do stuff like build fires and keep cave babes warm.

Funny women are a different story. Does humor not correlate to intelligence in women? On the contrary…studies show that humor correlates to even higher levels of intelligence in women than in men. But here’s the problem, funny chicks: Men aren’t interested in mental fitness when they size up ladies as mates. They don’t care about humor, I believe, because they don’t really care about intelligence either. They care about how hot a girl is…and how likely she is to sleep with him. Which brings us to the second important function of laughter in mating: expressing interest. When a girl laughs at a guy’s jokes, she is basically saying she wants to do him. I have personal data to support this. As a mildly funny guy, I can tell you that a mediocre chick is much more likely to laugh at my jokes than a hot chick is. It’s not because I’m funnier around less attractive women. It’s because mediocre women want to have sex with me more than hot women do. In fact, you can sometimes see really sexy girls forcing themselves not to laugh at ugly guys’ jokes. They are aware, perhaps only subconsciously, that they don’t want to send flirtation signals to ugly guys. You might see them turn around and crack up at some other’s guy’s jokes, even if he isn’t funny at all. And if that happens, ten times out of ten, the other guy is better looking.

It’s sort of like when men flex their muscles. They’re showing off their strength, and if a girl is into the guy, she might grab his biceps and say “Oooh, these are really big.” If she’s not into the guy, she rolls her eyes and leaves. Humor is the same. A girl laughing at a guy’s jokes is basically saying “Ooh, your brain is so big!” But do guys like it when women flex their muscles? Nope. Big muscles on women are as useless as a good sense of humor. In fact, like big muscles, it can actually hurt to be too funny: It can be intimidating to the man.

So what’s a funny, horny girl to do? Well first, and I’m sorry to be blunt here, but: get hotter. There is no female equivalent of Jonah Hill, no chubby, awkward girls with Jew-fros who get laid just cause they’re funny. If nobody finds you funny, the most likely reason is that nobody finds you attractive, and even if they do find you funny it doesn’t turn into attraction like it does for humorous guys. So go lose twenty pounds. Get your hair done. Pluck your uni-brow.

Second, embrace your personality type. Aside from intelligence, humor corresponds with another trait: extroversion. Yes, comedians often act like introverts because they’re insecure nerds. But at heart, they love performing and being the center of attention. A lot of guys don’t like these kinds of girls, because a girl with too much charisma makes them feel like they’re getting upstaged. BUT…a lot of guys do like extroverts. As I’ve said before, there’s a yin to every yang. Funny, outgoing girls should be targeting guys who have a smaller personality than they have. These guys don’t have to be dullards. They can even be very funny themselves…if you’re the funny social butterfly, he should be the quiet comedy writer. Essentially, this is a sort of bait-and-switch…you think you’re getting a guy because you’re funny, but really it’s because you have a big personality, carry the conversation, have a big social network and take charge of the relationship. You just need to find a guy who wants those things. And there’s a lot of them out there.

And remember, hysterical ladies: You can be as funny as you want, but don’t forget your womanly duty to laugh at your man’s jokes. It doesn’t matter if he’s not actually that funny. I mean, he listens patiently while you ramble about your boring day at work, right? In the end, love is basically just pretending to enjoy someone’s personality so they will have sex with you. Keep this in mind, and you’ll be laughing all the way to the bank…The Dick Bank*.

*Not an actual bank.

44 Responses to “Why Funny Chicks Can’t Get Laid”

  1. robyne August 30, 2011 at 10:00 am #

    oy vey i’m glad i’m already married to a funny guy ha! yes i laugh at his jokes but it is NOT why i married him. he is a man you can carry on an intelligent convo with and is a decent fellow. in the end isn’t that what every woman wants?

  2. Beauitiful Life of Traveling Wife August 30, 2011 at 10:50 am #

    This is HYSTERICAL. But like you said, men are mostly worried about if a girl thinks they are funny..and of course if she is HOT. The only thing is a guys version of a HOT girl and a girls version of a HOT girl are completely different… you really only care what the bodies look like.. the face can leave something to be desired 🙂

    • afarasati August 30, 2011 at 12:33 pm #

      A good waist-to-hip ratio is always nice, but facial symmetry is #1 in my book. Give me a pretty face over big funbags any day of the week!

  3. jeremy August 30, 2011 at 11:14 am #

    I take 2 exceptions to this…first, bridesmaids sucked my big hairy nuts, and second, girls like Comanche BECAUSE he is pasty, backward, and most importantly gingercrotched! Other than that, you are pretty spot on. Keep up the good work.

  4. jeremy August 30, 2011 at 11:16 am #

    Goddamn auto fill…anyways u know what I’m trying to say

  5. robyne August 30, 2011 at 12:23 pm #

    this blog is all in fun but…are guys REALLY this shallow? c’mon guys, some of you have some depth to you…don’t you?

    • afarasati August 30, 2011 at 12:35 pm #

      It’s not just guys! Girls are shallow too. I think I summed it up here: https://bluntmonkey.wordpress.com/2011/03/08/why-women-date-assholes/

      • robyne August 30, 2011 at 1:07 pm #

        that was pretty much right on, i think. very observant of you =o] i wish that girl HAD recognized the gem she had right in front of her but in my expericence women don’t start getting brains about that till around age 30. so if you guys can wait to marry a woman who has come to her senses and appreciates a nice, sweet, loving guy do so and may you live a long happy life!

  6. The T August 30, 2011 at 12:33 pm #

    I date a lot of girls and I love funny, snarky, and a girl who is witty enough to understand cynical humor… after they make me laugh? We have sex that effs up some serious bed linens… and then just after, I’m like…umm can I have a bacon sammich? She looks at me and says no…get that yourself… oh haha…another funny one… sexy…yeah…sex again…

    See funny girls do get laid…again..and again… i’m a believer in these terrific women…


  7. ashleyjillian August 30, 2011 at 2:13 pm #

    I really hope you don’t think this entry is intelligent, witty or in any way factual. It’s a generalization that’s obviously true in some cases, but not true in most. Get over yourself.

    • afarasati August 30, 2011 at 2:32 pm #

      Well, since you didn’t mention anything specific you disagree with, I’ll assume you mean funny chicks ARE hotter than unfunny chicks? I’m sure that’s a popular belief with all the schlubby improv girls over at UCB. Of course when any of you get a hot boyfriend maybe I’ll believe it. Thanks for stopping by!

    • Breanna November 20, 2013 at 10:32 am #

      As a comedic woman who typically has no problem getting men, I still agree with this article. Often times as human beings we have an ideal version of humanity, which we wish to be true, versus reality-which can often leave us disappointed. It makes total sense in evolutionary terms and biologically that everything we as humans do has one primary goal-to reproduce. After all, that is the biological reason for existence-to mate and carry on the species.

      While we like to think that human beings aren’t shallow and all that jazz, the evidence of this ideal being true simply doesn’t stack up. We, of course, are attracted to potential mates with whom we would have the best chance of reproducing with. The fact that we still exist as a species, and did not die out thousands of years ago, is proof of this. We have been such a successful species because of this.

      It may be unfortunate, as it does go against everything we do wish to believe about humans and humanity in general, but the success of homo sapiens is direct proof that we are very interested in, and good at, choosing mates successfully.

      • Breanna November 20, 2013 at 10:34 am #

        This reply was meant for ashleyjillian

        • afarasati November 20, 2013 at 10:49 am #

          Thanks for the comment Breanna! Glad you have bridged the gap between funniness and hotness. I think some of the other commenters are bitter because they haven’t figured out how to do that yet…please share your secrets with them!

          • Aubre February 19, 2014 at 1:39 pm #

            Why is it that your truths make me want to do something as some form of defiance. It just makes me intensely sad and angry. I can’t serve this self-serving excuse that you seem to have. No…its more than that…the reason is…men can stay themselves regardless of all situations…that’s what your saying. Women should hide themselves away, degrade themselves, curse their fates and bodies. Its…not right. ITS VERY NOT RIGHT AND I CAN’T FOR THE LIFE OF ME FIGURE OUT WHY YOU’RE STILL ALLOWED TO SAY IT!!!!

  8. Dan September 1, 2011 at 6:15 pm #

    I found this to be quite an interesting read and you are probably correct. Although I’m not sure if humor in women is an entirely useless traight when it comes to finding a mate. I personally find that a good sense of humor in women makes them all the more sexy. I found this video and it seems somewhat relevant to what I’m trying to say, these girls use humor just as much as sex as their main selling point. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h5U0Bkffrfo&feature=channel_video_title

  9. james October 11, 2011 at 12:06 am #

    What are you talking about I find Kristen Wig super hot. I am so shocked at this. Funny is very attractive to me.

  10. james October 11, 2011 at 12:21 am #

    James Again.

    Okay, actually I found this site because I was looking for advice on relationship success rates with large intelligence disparities. ( Which is difficult to find insight on BTW) Anyway, I think that your conclusion of guys only being interested in looks is super flawed. While I think looks are the primary (in terms of time) attractor, I also think that intelligence and humor are valued at an even level- for long term relationships.

    However, these things could be treated as resources, and if you do not offer a lot you generally have to compromise in one area. But being Smart, Funny, and attractive–to find some one who has all three qualities is incredibly difficult. Then you’d have to add on all the other infinite amount of variables that make up a human…

    • afarasati October 11, 2011 at 10:15 am #

      Hey James, thanks for the comments. I’m wondering if you read my posts on Why Guys Date Dumb Girls? https://bluntmonkey.wordpress.com/2011/02/17/why-smart-guys-date-dumb-girls/

      And maybe also Why Women Date Assholes? https://bluntmonkey.wordpress.com/2011/03/08/why-women-date-assholes/

      Both these pieces address your comments…essentially, I believe that while qualities like humor and intelligence are obviously attractive in partners, often times simple things like looks or money trump them completely. I’m not saying humor is COMPLETELY useless. I’m just saying it takes a major back seat to physical attributes, particularly in women.

      As to your initial question about relationship success with large intelligence disparities, I that’s an interesting topic. I am a huge yin/yang proponent, and have observed many successful relationships with one really bright partner and one, well, less-so. Also, it seems to vary by situation…if you get your intellectual fix from friends and coworkers, maybe it’s not as important to have an ivy league debate partner at home. Maybe you’d prefer someone sweet and bubbly. Then again, if your girlfriend/wife is your only companion on a desert island, someone like Jessica Simpson will get old quick. Anyway, intelligence means a lot of different things. I’d rather date someone who wasn’t book smart at all but had tons of emotional intelligence than the opposite. Everyone is different. Search your own DNA, decide what you want, and find the yin to your yang.

  11. Stephanie August 7, 2013 at 6:01 pm #

    Why don’t you try taking your shitty-ass personality beyond ranking women based on hotness and write a blog post about that. You’re a piece of human garbage.

  12. Anonymous August 7, 2013 at 6:18 pm #

    It might be nice if you actually knew how to write properly and were in some way intelligent and witty. But alas, a misogynist is generally pedestrian and if of the lowest common denominator. You’re obviously a shallow, small man, who is intimidated by intelligent women. Good luck with your fear of women, oh and please commit self immolation. No one would miss you.

    • afarasati August 7, 2013 at 7:20 pm #

      LOL! These comments made my day. Thank you Stephanie, and your anonymous friend with the same IP address as you.

      • james August 7, 2013 at 7:46 pm #

        Lol, that’s weird. Why would some one do that schizophrenia?

  13. girlsmarts August 15, 2013 at 7:51 am #

    Wow. I’m almost speechless. This might be the most sexist thing I’ve ever read in my life. So women are supposed to just shut up so men don’t find them to be emasculating? That’s bullshit. Also, I don’t know ANY (not one) girl who fantasizes about Seth rogen or Jonah Hill, so it doesn’t surprise me that men don’t fantasize about Melissa McCarthy (although she does have a super devoted husband). But I know lots of guys who fantasize about Tina fey and Amy poehler, probably for the same reason girls fantasize about Joel McHale and Paul Rudd- they’re physically attractive AND funny, a lethal combination to bother and women. If men just want something they can fuck and will laugh at their jokes, I suggest buying a real doll and playing a sitcom laugh track in the background. I personally find that intellectual banter and the mutual exchange of humor makes for much more stimulating (and sexy) interactions in a relationship.

    • afarasati August 15, 2013 at 12:55 pm #

      Good points. We can all agree that Amy Poehler, Paul Rudd, Joel McHale etc are attractive, mostly because they are actually attractive regardless of humor. But there’s objectively UNATTRACTIVE men who women find attractive only because they are funny. Like Larry David, for instance. I know a lot of women in their 20 and 30s who think Larry David is attractive because he’s hilarious, even though he’s old and bald. If the same were possible for women, men would think Bea Arthur was hot, right? As far as whether you should “shut up so men don’t find them emasculating,” I never said that, but either way it’s up to you, makes no difference to me. This post is just stating my opinion, based on studies of both genders, that women find humor much more attractive in men than men do in women. Do with that information what you will.

      On a related note, there’s 30 posts on this site about similar subjects and male/female differences, but for some reason this one is really attracting a lot of resentment. I can’t tell if that’s because it is true, and is really hitting a nerve with funny women who don’t want to believe it, or if I just accidentally come off as more of a smug prick than usual? Maybe both?

      At any rate, let me clarify for everyone: I think lots of funny chicks are hot. I have worked in Hollywood for eight years and worked side by side with many hilarious women, man of whom I thought were super hot. Additionally I’ve spent time in stand-up, sketch comedy, and improv communities, also filled with plenty of funny, attractive women. But in all those fields, the most attractive women…the ones all the guys drooled over…were funny AND hot. However there were many instances of not that hot guys who were incredibly funny who girls DID find attractive. That’s my whole point. The funny is only a big extra plus for men. Although I would WELCOME some examples of a really funny, unattractive woman with a super hot boyfriend?

      • Ashley November 23, 2016 at 8:54 pm #

        Just discovered your site and really like it! This post is old so you may not be checking it anymore, but I thought of someone who fits this description (at least in my mind). Not a hot lady (but she’s super funny) with a really hot boyfriend – Amy Schumer. She’s currently dating a very attractive guy named Ben Hanisch. Would love to hear your thoughts. Maybe money/fame plays a part for him? Interestingly, he’s also 6 years younger than her.

  14. Dina Strange December 8, 2013 at 5:46 pm #

    Please someone give me hope. Is hotness the ONLY criteria guy looks in a girl? Coz if yes, years of reading, having sense of humor, amazing personality, and wit had been just wasted on a dumb male.

  15. God January 7, 2014 at 2:52 am #

    “If nobody finds you funny, the most likely reason is that nobody finds you attractive, and even if they do find you funny it doesn’t turn into attraction like it does for humorous guys.So go lose twenty pounds. Get your hair done. Pluck your uni-brow”

    I know some very hot women, actually quite a lot of them who you can say nobody finds funny. Yet these women have no problem attracting guys. You stated men usually only go for looks. I’ve seen funny women who are extraordinarily physically attractive, you know, the ones who get their hair done and pluck their brows. But too bad they are FUNNY.

    You seem to hold a delusional idea that looks and personality have some kind of inverse relationship. Anyway, you do have some points that may be true, only because you have some fact to back them up, but I don’t know how you got to this conclusion.

    You are an idiot my friend. Stop spreading your hateful filth.

    • afarasati January 10, 2014 at 12:04 am #

      your comment makes very little sense. I am forced to question if you really are God.

      • God February 3, 2014 at 4:13 am #

        Geez it doesn’t make sense cos you don’t get it.You lack actual evidence give us reliable statistical that “funny chicks can’t get laid”…especially funny gorgeous chicks (and they do exist). Obviously you base it on anecdotal evidence and I’m sorry if for whatever reason hahaha it seems you don’t havremany good experiences or probably don’t know enough women in general. You’re shallowness is astounding. But I have to play God because you are skewing or rather playing at using the ‘scientific method’ to back up a mere biased personal opinion. Don’t do that. The world is ignorant amd pessimistic enough as it is. By the way God doesn’t exist it’s funny how you even question it.

        • afarasati February 3, 2014 at 7:47 pm #

          There’s lots of funny gorgeous chicks. Mila Kunis, Cameron Diaz, Charlize Theron, Natalie Portman, etc. I never said there weren’t. But they’re attractive because they’re gorgeous, not because they’re funny. Whereas if anybody is attracted to Jonah Hill it’s because he’s funny, even though he’s kinda ugly. If you want to prove this post wrong, it’s easy, just NAME ME ONE SINGLE UGLY CHICK WHO MEN THINK IS HOT BECAUSE SHE IS FUNNY. This should be easy; just go google all your favorite funny but unattractive female comedians, and find pictures of them with their super hot boyfriends, and send me photos of how hot the boyfriends are. Go ahead, I’ll wait here. And I promise to post the photos on this blog. Swear to God, God.

  16. Charlote March 24, 2014 at 7:45 am #

    I I vow for that. I did some experimentation. And I do a lot better with men when I play the serious, grownup woman. When I´m being myself, just messing around and being ridiculous, men don´t even get near me. Although the hottest man I have ever hooked up with came to me when I was willingly making a complete fool of myself trying to entertain my friends (maybe he did it out of pity, or a bet, who knows….).
    Anyhow, I never thought about trying to laugh some dude into bed, I always just stand there and they come to me. I´ll take this challenge, but how can I execute it? I mean, I could aim for the hottest guy in the bar, way out of my league (just to make sure it is not for my looks), but then, as you said, he´d bang me just because he´d bang anything that moves… Maybe the challenge for a woman would not be getting laid, but getting a call next day? But then I wouldn´t know if it was because I cracked him up or because the sex as great….. Maybe I can pick the hottest guy, then actively have the lousiest sex ever with him and then, if he calls me, it means I performed the female version of laughing someone into bed, right? ….no, it doesn´t make much sense….oh man, I really really wanted to try this…

    • afarasati March 24, 2014 at 6:12 pm #

      Haha!! Hilarious, I love your enthusiasm. I think in theory, the best test would be to find a slightly more attractive girl than you who isn’t funny, and then somehow hit on the same guy and see who he picks. Then, another time, find a slightly less attractive but very funny friend, and hit on the same guy again, but this time don’t be funny. That would control for humor in both trials. Whatever happens, please find the hottest guy and have the lousiest sex ever with him…that’s just an awesome idea, regardless. Thanks for reading!

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  18. Miche March 5, 2015 at 11:23 pm #

    There are a lot of things wrong with this article, but the basis is “correct” in that humor is a masculine trait, and essentially it can be broken down to mate selection to a certain extent.

    Humor however is NOT a inherent trait of extroversion, and I’m not exactly sure where you got that from. In fact, quite the opposite, but I don’t think that its so important for me to dwell on.

    You also contradict yourself when you state how humor affects women’s attraction to men. At first, you say a woman won’t laugh at a guys jokes, even if they’re funny, just because they are not attracted to them, but then you go to say “ugly slobs” like Jonah hill get tons of chicks. So your “personal data” doesn’t say more attractive guys get laughed at, but maybe that you’re actually just not as funny as you think you are? Which is actually pretty common in the average ranking of men, lol not to be shady or anything.

    Truth of the matter is, if you’re actually funny, people laugh at your jokes. If you’re not funny, mediocre jokes will get “mediocre chicks” to laugh. No one else will bother, because they won’t feel the need to impress you, or express interest, but a “hot chick” isn’t going to suppress her laughter at a joke she thinks is funny, just because she thinks a guy is ugly. Humor transcends physical appearance to a large extent. But most men overestimate how funny they actually are. Women especially will laugh when something is funny, as women laugh more than men do. It is true that women and men process humor differently, in a biological sense. Women’s ventral system activates, while both dorsal and ventral system activate for men. Essentially this translates to: upon hearing a joke men try to replicate humor more, and women tend to actually appreciate and laugh at humor more) Laughing biologically comes easier to women, just like crying does. (Larger and more active tear ducts) So the mediocre chicks are probably interested in you, but that doesn’t mean your ugly and funny. It probably just means you’re not as funny as you think.

    Also I get the whole caveman thing, but society does evolve pretty quickly, and funnily enough, on average men ranked with higher amounts of intelligence (which you are saying directly correlates to humor) actually transcend the whole “men just want women to be hot” and feel the need for an intellectually stimulating partner, as in more than just someone who’s hot and will laugh at his jokes. Sometimes they lack the desire to have sex at all.(People with more intelligence are less driven by sexual impulses, which is why on average they have way less children) I get that a good portion of the population does have this sentiment, but lets call a spade a spade, the average IQ score of the USA is 98. Describing all men as booty hungry dip-shits is a bit misleading, I’m afraid, especially when talking about humor, because it DOES correlate to intelligence.

    Fact of the matter is, you’re just giving misleading information and sort of bad dating advice, haha. All i’m saying is that if you’re going to write a whole thing about men, women, and humor, you should probably have more actual knowledge of the subject besides just “speculations” you make from reactions to your personal stand up act, and random posts you’ve seen floating around the internet. But that’s none of my business.

    • Jess April 17, 2015 at 8:08 pm #

      Agree with you there. Humor hardly equals extroversion in the same way that introversion does not equal insecure nerdiness.

      The most intelligent men (and women) realize that looks are not what matter in the long term. It’s sad some people think the only way women can find live is to give up their personalities.

  19. betsyjuk August 11, 2015 at 9:58 am #

    I despair at reading the pseudo-evolutionary psych “explanations” of the reasoning in this article. Firstly, if you are going to use scientific and psychology based theories to make an argument, at least do some academic reading and back up what you are arguing. Much of what is posited as “respected theory” in non-academic platforms such as this is just ill-informed misunderstanding of science and psychology. If you believe that women’s response to humour is mediated by physical attraction, then prove it to me. Find the studies that have looked into it instead of expecting me to accept enormous, sweeping, social generalisations based on anecdotal observations. And if you do find said studies…how are they defining “hot”? Based on facial symmetry? On a specific markers for conventionally beauty within specified cultural groups? By measuring the arousal responses of the subject so you KNOW whether they really are experiencing physiological attraction? The arguments in this article annoy me because they simplfy the complexity of human interactions to the level of a tabloid newspaper.
    Here’s an example of how you can make a completely different argument about evolutionary theory and female funniness. I’m not arguing that this is truth, but merely showing that you can speculate all kinds of possibilities, but it is JUST empty speculation until you have data from the Sciences to unpick what really mediates attraction. You could argue that humour is likely to correlate in particular with high social intelligence. I am not going to bother searching out links to research on this, but I believe that data is there to support this idea. Funny people often have highly tuned social awareness and communication skills, hence their ability to play with language, make puns, judge pitch, tone and timing in jokes, and to deliver material based around social conventions, manners, faux-pas and the taboo. In contrast, people on the autistic spectrum often struggle with such facets of humour initially or for their whole lives, precisely because humour is so knotted up with some key facets of social intelligence. Studies tell us that, statistically speaking, women are likely to be better at these social/language based tasks than men (hence the stereotype of women as social mediators, pacifiers, teamworkers and nurturers). You could argue then, that female comedic ability is a marker for something that clearly has evolutionary advantage for women. If a woman is funny, she’s more likely to be good with people. That means in social groups she’s more capable of protecting herself and offspring through her strong pacifying/negotiating skills. She’s more likely to aquire resources and support from others through her ability to engage, charm and bond with others via her humour. She is basically well equipped for life in small social groups, which is exactly how we evolved and what are brains are shaped to accommodate. Comedic ability certainly looks like it would offer evolutionary adavtanges and it would not surprise me if it is ONE in a MULTITUDE of markers that men might look for in a mate. How particular traits are “stacked” in terms of influencing attraction (I.e. Are some traits more influential than others?) is a fascinating question. And how much this varies between individuals and societies are also huge areas of study in themselves. Please don’t reduce the amazing science of our attraction to “men just like brainless looks and women just want safe providers.” This does no justice to the science or to us as a species.

    • Stella.G November 1, 2015 at 7:55 am #

      Good stuff!

  20. Gaby August 13, 2015 at 9:37 pm #

    I wish the world were different. I wish that inner beauty was more valued than outer, I wish that words like “chicks” and “hot” and “bang” weren’t used as much. But this is the world we live in. And we all have to accept that life is fair because it is unfair to everyone. It’s unfair that warm, caring, loving, intelligent, energetic, funny and remarkable women are cast aside sometimes because their genetic makeup didn’t allow them the hip to waist ratio and the face symmetry that men desire. They are truly missing out on some wonderful people to know and love. And it is unfair that guys are supposed to apologize for the way their brains have been programmed since the dawn of mankind; the fact that they are visual creatures is no more their fault than it is the fault of a woman who wants a protector/warrior/poem-writer/cries in Nicholas-Sparks films hunk of a man that feeds you grapes and knows exactly what you want them to say at every moment. We are all imperfect beings who want their own type of perfection. But I have hope that we can overcome this and realize that when you find the one for you, the looks and the ideals don’t matter as much. You don’t have to have the looks of Mila Kunis to find a guy that loves you, and you don’t have to have the humor of Seth Rogan to find a girl that loves you. And that’s really the goal. At least for me it is.

    • afarasati August 13, 2015 at 9:40 pm #

      You know I’ve been ignoring the comments on this post for over a year, but this one is actually great. Thanks for the insight Gaby!

  21. Anonymous December 24, 2015 at 7:48 pm #

    This is old but i think you’re wrong. Ugly funny men get laid because of money, and so funny women, at lest those who you talked about.

  22. Jasmine February 19, 2016 at 12:57 pm #

    You are NOT funny and sexist as fuck. What a waste of time reading this crap.

  23. Chintan Banerjee February 25, 2016 at 8:07 am #

    Though m a funny guy myself…… I would definitely lyk a funny girl…….who makes me laugh…..never in my lyf have I met a girl….who made me laugh my lungs out……jst waiting for that to happen someday….

  24. Anonymous August 23, 2017 at 8:42 pm #

    You can’t be serious?

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